I can hear my sister already... "I can't believe you actually wrote a blog post!"
Don't get too excited.
I used to log in to Blogger every couple of days to write a post and never really get anywhere. But unlike previous blocks, these writer's blocks are most definitely not ADHD-related. These are "Wow, I'm really boring" blocks.
I have a pretty good routine going these days, but it's just that - a routine: Gym, work, cook, television, sleep. But as I reflected on my routine, I quickly realized that - aside from cooking - I wasn't really a housewife anymore.
When I went back to work in Charlotte, I questioned whether I was still a housewife. The reality is that I was still trying to make sense of moving to Charlotte and what that meant for me personally and professionally. I had a job and it fit into my career goals, but it certainly wasn't an integral part of my life. Maybe that had to do with the job itself, maybe it had to do with the culture of the South, or maybe it was because we eventually had the move to Milwaukee on the horizon.
Moving to Milwaukee has definitely been different than the move to Charlotte. I have family and friends here, and I quickly found a job that is both challenging and rewarding. My husband and I settled into our lives here. But it's a different life than we had in Charlotte.
I don't think of myself as a housewife. A wife, certainly, but not a housewife. I do very little around the house. In fact, it's not really important to me anymore. I don't feel any pride or guilt or really anything about what I considered "housewifey." That's just not me anymore.
Something happened when we moved back to Milwaukee. Yes, we moved back for my husband's job, but it's not like moving to Charlotte. If anything, life in Milwaukee now seems almost identical to the life I had the last time we lived in Milwaukee. The daily routine is different, but it feels familiar, and it's nothing like the life I had in Charlotte.
I'm not a housewife, I'm a DINK - Dual Income No Kids. My focus is very much on my career, and my husband's focus is very much on his career, and when we're not thinking about our careers, we are enjoying the life that we have as a result of having two successful careers. The fundamentals of our marriage and the lessons we learned from our time in Charlotte have not changed, but they're not as relevant now as they were then. Because they're not as relevant, they don't consume my daily thoughts like they did when I was in Charlotte.
And when you don't have daily thoughts about what it's like to be a housewife, it makes it pretty hard to blog about being a housewife.
I'll still write from time to time. I'm sure with the holidays coming up I'll have some fun things to share - recipes, gift ideas, fun activities, etc. I'm sure I'll have some good stories to share. Perhaps the Grinch will make a return.
But I won't promise anything.
Until we meet again... RHoM
